Your Motivational Gen Z and Millennial Expert-Your host: Dr. Jason Wiggins
I focus on the motivational aspects with a high emphasize on motivating Gen Z and Millennials (GEN X will also find great value) and the employers who employ them for continuous improvement. This podcast focuses on motivating Gen Z and Millennials to empower to overcome obstacles within our everyday lived experiences. I have a passion for educating, speaking and guiding Gen Z and Millennials to achieve great things. Gen Z and Millennials have experienced so much in a short amount of time as the world continue to move faster. Self-Awareness and belief in our abilities provide a strong foundation for health, happiness and prosperity in a world that offers continuous challenges.
This is a motivational series for Gen Z and Millennials and those who aspire to do great things, while interested in understanding these two great generations and how we can aspire to be better because of the value of motivating through life experiences.
Life is hard, but when we challenge others or ourselves to be successful, then the world demonstrates the value of those who put in the effort. My hope is that each listener will find value and then share that value with others. I am a change leader that is passionate about life transformations and taking our passion and motivation to the next level. YOU CAN DO IT! Remembers Dreams without Goals are just Dreams.
Your Motivational Gen Z and Millennial Expert-Your host: Dr. Jason Wiggins
Self-Image and the Cost of Judgment (Episode 170)
Are you constantly battling the urge to judge others? Many of us struggle with this instinctual response, often rooted in insecurity, upbringing, and societal influences. In this podcast episode, we delve deep into the reasons why we judge and the toll it takes on our mental and emotional well-being. Through the engaging story of Cinderella, we illustrate how superficial judgments can overshadow true self-worth. We invite listeners to explore how personal appearance affects our interactions, especially in professional environments, where first impressions dominate.
More importantly, we discuss actionable steps to break this cycle of judgment. By understanding our triggers and reframing our perceptions, we can shift our mindset from judgment to support. The power of kindness, optimism, and self-compassion is emphasized as we explore how fostering connection rather than criticism can lead to a more inclusive society.
Join us as we motivate each other toward personal growth and healthier relationships—within ourselves and with others. Together, we can make a significant positive impact. Don't forget to share your thoughts with us, subscribe for more insightful episodes, and leave a review to help spread the message of kindness.
Hello friends, welcome to your Motivational Gen Z and Millennial Expert Podcast. I am your host, my name is Dr Jason Wiggins and it is a pleasure to be here. This podcast is about motivating and helping others achieve success in whatever it may be. So please continue to pass the word on, and I appreciate all the great listeners. I would not be here without you. So let's get our heads right and let's get started. Today we're going to talk about something really, really important. Why do we judge others and ourselves? The reason we are going to look at today is think about.
Speaker 1:There's a story of Cinderella. Cinderella is based around a prince, a girl that is wretched in many ways. She lives in a little cottage where she works under an evil stepmother and she is not somebody that people see as something of significance. But then she finds her fairy godmother. She turns into a princess, turns the carriage from a pumpkin to a beautiful carriage and all of that good stuff. And then the prince. She runs away from the prince and then the prince finds her and they find happiness. He sees her for the person she is inside, even initially after just finding her for her looks.
Speaker 1:So in many ways it seemed very superficial and that's kind of the way that we see people, or they see us, and it can be very superficial in many ways. When you are in an interview, the first thing people see is your image. Therefore, it's always important to dress for success and that's why we're going to talk about and discuss about judging others and ourselves. I know when I give interviews, it is very difficult for me to get past a way somebody dresses, because if they didn't put the emphasis and effort into how they dress, a lot of the stuff they say doesn't really resonate. Not because I'm superficial, but it's because that's the step one of what people see when they are in an interview. They see how the person is dressed, they see their mannerisms, they see many of the things that make them who they are. Therefore, if you put the effort in and you represent the part you represent, who you are, you have a better chance of accelerating yourself within the interview process. But let's talk about today, about the steps, about how and why we judge others, how and why we judge others, and then we're going to talk about how we can stop judging others.
Speaker 1:So why do we judge others? Why is social media so crazed about TikTok videos, instagram and all it is is negative consumerism about why we judge and how we judge. We judge oh she's beautiful, she's perfect. Oh, he's ugly, he's dumb, whatever it may be. We are judging through TikTok, we're judging through Instagram. It starts within our school system when we're young. We're judging others, we're getting bullied, we're doing all of these things.
Speaker 1:It encompasses on how somebody looks, how somebody acts, and that leads up into the teenage, adolescence, grown up even in the professionalism. As the example I just provided, with the interview process, you're looking and judging about how somebody is. Is it right, is it wrong? I don't know, but I do know that we are better off as a society if we don't judge. It sounds simple. Bullying is about judging and that's where we really have issues with on our society.
Speaker 1:Mannerisms are why we judge. You know things like that really make a difference. So through the interview process as an example, because an interview is all about judging. It's all about substance, about what that person brings to the table and what they may or may not bring to the job. So you look at the appearance, you look at the handshake, you look at the body language, you look at were they timeliness to the interview and then you look at their mannerisms, their smile, are they positive? How do they act? It is just a cycle about how we continue to judge. It's not right, it's not wrong and who am I to judge? But looking at why we judge others, well, number one is the majority of people, like it or not, typically can be insecure and have a low self-esteem. They place the suffering and inferiority about how they feel and then they judge others for the same thing, so like they want to bring themselves up by bringing themselves, by bringing the others down. And that's about society, because society wants to keep people from being successful. They want to pull them down. Why? Because they're not successful and they feel like they should be up, and that is a vicious cycle that just continues to move forward, which is why, at the end, we're going to talk about how to stop judging others.
Speaker 1:Another key part of judging others is the upbringing. When they were children, it was full of judgment within the house. The judgment was hey, did you do this? You didn't do this? Well, and there can be some harsh criticism within the household and the upbringing. Now the parents are trying to promote, you know, a sense of improvement within their child, but what the child sees? Is that harsh upbringing, that fool of judgment and criticism? So there we are. We see insecurity, we see self-esteem. We also see how it can encompass an upbringing of judgment and criticism.
Speaker 1:And then why do we judge others? Because we want to gloss over our own perceived flaws, and that we all have flaws, why we're human. Humans have flaws. We're not all perfect. We don't do everything right and perfect. We are a flawed species and that's why we have to realize that we should not judge others. We should not gloss over our own perceived flaws to judge others. Another key point of why we judge others is we make comparisons about our own inadequacies, and our own inadequacies teach us that we should try to improve our inadequacies, not bring other people to the same level of our inadequacies. And that is just about motivation in general, and we have so many episodes on motivation, so maybe I will touch base a little bit at the end of today's podcast.
Speaker 1:And they confuse control with a sense of security. What does that mean? That means, since they don't feel good about themselves, they feel like they can have some sort of control and bully others, bring other people down, have harsh judgment, and that makes their security perceived better because they're making somebody else not feel good, and that goes back down to bullying. The sixth reason out of seven is envious of others. That's called jealousy. Some of these can be more internal and don't even recognize what you could be doing to somebody. But I mean, I'm guilty of when I'm driving, I am guilty of judging others, and I'm sure many of you are too. When you see somebody driving, maybe they make a dumb move, maybe they turn into the lane without blinkers, maybe they're going too fast and weaving through traffic, and or they're going too slow and you go. Oh my gosh, that person doesn't know how to drive. That's judging. I am guilty of that every single day when I'm driving.
Speaker 1:It is a sense of judging. It is a sense of judging. And now the other one is about you are attached, your feelings, your opinions, rather than natural observations. So you know, as humans, we have our feelings, we have our opinions, but we don't actually look outside the box to see what the real problem is. Therefore, we are judging and those are the reasons why we talked about low self-esteem.
Speaker 1:Upbringing is full of judgments. We gloss over our own perceived flaws to worry about others. We make comparisons about our own inadequacies so we can make ourselves feel better. We're jealous and envious of others. We're attached to our own opinions and feelings. We think this is the way it should be. We think this is the way it should be. So that person is wrong and rather than looking outside the box and looking at our own natural observation, those are the main reasons why people are human. We have judging and we start at the very young age with bullying because we're judging others. They're not as good. For this reason, therefore, we should bully them, we should pick on them. We should cyber bully, we should make them feel like they are unimportant.
Speaker 1:And if you look at all this, this is all sad, this is all rhetoric, but it happens in every single walk of life. It happens everywhere you see. You look on TV. You see all the perfection. You look on social media, you see all the perfection. You look on social media, you see all the perfection. Why? Because people don't want to show their inadequacies on social media. They want to look as good as possible. So why they hide the negatives. And then guess what, when people are having negative outcomes in life, maybe they've lost jobs, they've lost spouses. They've lost spouses, they've lost children, they can't pay their bills, they have all of these problems in life, but they don't go on Facebook and talk about hey, I lost my job, my life is miserable. No, why? Because A people don't wanna listen, and, sad but true, they generally just don't want to listen. And, sad but true, they generally just don't care. And if that's the case, if they just don't care, then you have a whole different you know thing going on. And that's that's where, here in the United States, if you're listening from other countries the United States has a perceived perception of they don't care. And there's probably not wrong, and I'm sure other countries might feel the same way.
Speaker 1:But we tend to try to put ourselves on a pedestal wherever we go and we're like, hey, we are the top dogs, we are better than everyone else. Well, guess what? This is America? This is like any other country. We all have our own problems, but we don't sit out there, we don't try to show the world what our problems are. We talk about wanting to be perfection. We talk about wanting to be perfection within our jobs, within our home life. People don't like to quote air out their dirty laundry. When you air out your dirty laundry, you show imperfection, you show insecurity, you show a lot of the things that's called normal life. So today we have been talking about why people judge others and really the big problems behind it. So now let's try to solve the problem. We can solve the world's problems today If we start working together and start and stop judging others. That's why this world is such a crazy place. Because we're judging others. It's all about perception. The workplace everybody has gone, sometimes a little chaotic, because life can be tough, life can be challenging many obstacles in with within everything we do on a daily basis.
Speaker 1:So how do we stop judging? The first question we should ask is why are we judging? Why do we stop judging? The first question we should ask is why are we judging? Why do we care? Why do we scroll through social media and, you know, dislike or like a TikTok video, or, or, you know, make negative comments on people's posts, on people's posts? Why do we have political outrage about what one president does or doesn't do? Why? Because we want to talk poorly about people, because we want to make ourselves look better, we want to protect our opinions and our inferiority. So these are things that we do on a normal basis. So we've got to try to stop that. And other ways we do it is understand your triggers and biases. If you are attached to one political party, the other day I heard from a friend that they didn't want to do something because they were so attached to their political agendas that that's all they could think about and that's overseeing and controlling their life. And that is why we have to understand our triggers and biases and realize that we have to think about what's important to us, but not dwell on it.
Speaker 1:Number three is look at the perception and reposition the way we see others. Reframe how we look at things. If you're being negative and you're looking at the big picture and you're judging others, reframe, reposition the way you look at that and go, wait a minute. If I was looking at it this way, would I still feel exactly the same way? Would I judge the situation or judge that person in the same scenario? And I like to think of this one first.
Speaker 1:Number one stop judging yourself. When we judge ourself. That is when we look at it and go I'm not perfect, I am inadequate in so many different ways. And how can I improve that? And how can I improve the inadequacies and all the issues in my life. How can I stop judging others and improve my life? So don't be hard on yourself. You judge yourself. Maybe you're not the most beautiful person in the world. Maybe you're not the strongest person in the world, maybe you're not the smartest person in the world, but guess what? All of these things we can continue to improve on. We can continue to make ourselves better, make our lives better and improve ourselves.
Speaker 1:Now the fourth one is or, excuse me, the fifth one is be more positive and optimistic, which we're going to talk about in a second. I'm not going to explain that one because that is pretty self-explanatory. And the last one out of the six ways to stop judging others is meet new people and learn how to help them, not judge. Let's be kinder to people in this world. Let's be more helpful to people in this world. You know, sometimes it's like when you go to a Starbucks, some people will start a chain reaction where they pass it on, move it forward, where they'll buy somebody a coffee drink and then everybody keeps buying the next person in line. It may be. It's about paying it forward, and that's where we've got to start doing better as a society. We need to be more positive. We need to be more optimistic. We need to help each other.
Speaker 1:So today we've talked about the reasons why we judge each other. We've talked about the reasons how we can stop judging, which which, again, is number one ask why you're judging. Number two understand your triggers and biases. Number three reposition or reframe the way you see others. Number four stop judging yourself. Number five be more positive and optimistic. And number six meet new people and learn how to help, not judge.
Speaker 1:Out of all this that we've talked today about today, it all boils down to one thing and, as I talked about earlier in the podcast, it comes down to motivating yourself to want to be better. Motivating yourself to want to help others be better, motivating ourselves the way we carry ourselves, from the way we have our mannerisms, the way we handshake, smile, body language, timeliness and appearance. Those are key points on who we are Every single day at work, right or wrong. I like to wear a suit. Why? Because my thought process is that when you wear a suit, you are trying to not only be your best at work, but you're trying to look your best at work, and then people judge you on how you dress, how you act, what your mannerisms are how professional are you in the workplace?
Speaker 1:And so it comes back down to what I call that old school mentality. That old school mentality is you want to look the part, you be the part and you act the part. And that's where success really has a key point on the starting lines. So when you start a race, what you do first, why you train for the race you have the right shoes for the race. What you do first, why you train for the race, you have the right shoes for the race you get ready at the starting line for the race and you get in position. And then all of that practice you did, you run as fast as you can until you get to the finish line and guess what? You looked the part, you acted the part, you did your best for the part, and that is what can happen at the end. That is what success is. That is where you can make a difference.
Speaker 1:So today, make a difference. Make a difference on who you are, how you treat others, how you are in the workplace with all your professionalisms, and stop judging others, and then take these steps to help people, and that'll make you a better person, a better professional, a better leader and just a darn better all around person. So I want to thank everybody today for listening and sharing this podcast, and please feel free to reach out if there's anything I can do to help. This podcast is for those that want to be motivated, that want to be helped, that want and please feel free to reach out if there's anything I can do to help. This podcast is for those that want to be motivated, that want to be helped, that want to continue to learn about how to be a better person in and outside the workplace. Within Gen Z, millennials, generation X, baby Boomers, alpha, whatever it may be, this podcast can resonate with anybody. So thank you, take care bye.
